When I saw the Flex from Tantus, I was excited. I love my butt plug and dildo pairings, so to me this was an obvious choice. I mean a DP toy, made out of body safe silicone? Sounds fantastic, right? That’s what I thought. When I held the Flex in my hands for the first time, I was dubious of the anal arm. I’m not a huge fan of anal probes, and that exactly what this is. I figured, what the hell, I’ll make it work. Now I know, that if I have to make something work, it might be time to stop and really question the reason behind buying a toy. If I have to make it work, I probably don’t need it. Anyways, I grabbed my Maximus water-based lube, and slathered it on. The first position I tried, looked reminiscent of the Captain Morgan stance. Putting in the Flex definitely takes concentration, and flexibility on my part. The anal arm constantly wants to bend and you’re literally trying to get a bulge the size of a jelly bean, into your butt, while keeping a dildo inside of you. Not easy. Especially since the dildo is nearly the same length as the anal arm. I finally figured out that doggie style (chest to the floor because I need both hands) or a strange duck stance (squat with my butt pushed out) have the higher success rate. Keep in mind I use this toy by myself, and it would be a lot easier with a partner. Especially, since having to keep the anal arm from popping out while thrusting, and away from the dildo (if it does) is extremely difficult.
When I do get it in, I’m always hopeful. For the first couple of minutes, I’m tricked into thinking “this time is going to be different”. It feels great, but then the bulges on the anal arm start to hurt. Especially because the lacking size of the dildo, it requires to me thrust hard and fast to feel anything. It’s not like I have a dead vagina when it comes to slim dildos, but because of where the dildo is connected to the arm, it’s halted by my perineum. So essentially it’s a slim, straight up and down, short dildo. Not something that I would pick out of a line up, by itself.
Overall height – 7 1/2”
Dildo length – 5 1/4”
Dildo head circumference – 4 7/8”
Dildo shaft circumference – 4 1/2”
Anal arm length – 4 1/2
Anal arm bead circumference – 2 1/2”
Base width – 3”
Bullet length – 3”
Bullet circumference – 2”
Battery size – N1
The bullet that comes with Flex is made out of plastic, and has a rubber o-ring at the bottom of the threading to make it water proof. The bullet only has two settings; on and off. The vibrations are of the buzzy variety rather than deep and rumbly. When I use the vibe by itself I’m unable to get off. As soon as I press it into my clit, the vibrations diminish and are more irritating that titillating. I can feel it vibrate the dildo and anal arm while I’m holding it, but when I have the toy in, it just vibrates about an inch into my vag and not at all in my ass. I do like the vibrations in the beginning but because of the dense silicone, it ends up being frustrating more than anything. I end up pulling the vibe out and use the hole as a grip. I put a small amount of lube on the bullet to make insertion and retrieval easier, but if I put too much, I can literally make the bullet shoot out of the base. All I have to do is squeeze the shaft, right above the base. The farthest I’ve gotten is about 4 feet. Without lube, it’s nothing but trouble. I tried it without lube once, and ended up having to get the needle nose pliers. The bullet didn’t break, but there is a huge gash on the side from using different things to try to get it out.
Overall, I’m less than impressed by the Flex. I think it’s great that there’s a body safe DP toy, out there, but I found the dimensions boring. I love that Tantus made a DP toy, I appreciate the effort. It’s just the two designs together aren’t fulfilling. The anal arm is too narrow and the bulges are irritating. The dildo is far too slim and short. The fact that the anal arm flings itself against the dildo, when it pops out, means that you have to stop and clean the toy. In regards to the Flex, I’ll stick to my butt plugs and dildos.